A couple weeks ago I had a discussion about what it takes to be a great leader. One blog I read suggested that we're all naturally born leaders and that as we grow we develop traits that eventually hinder us from fully reaching our leadership potential.
I didn't necessarily agree with this theory at first, but the more I thought about it, the more it starts to make sense. I've always considered myself a great follower. I have all the necessary traits needed to be a great follower. I'm usually an attentive listener, I take direction well and I follow through on orders. But who's to say those traits wouldn't also make me a great leader?
I think we all have to know our role in life, but stepping out of traditional roles and feeling uncomfortable is a challenge these days. We live in a world where social anxiety gets treated with prescriptions. I think we all need to put down the bottle of pills and feel uncomfortable now and then. I mean, you're not supposed to enter a room full of strangers and feel totally comfortable, are you?
I think a true leader is able to motivate and inspire others to get things done. We all know a few people who are good at that. Personally, I have a hard enough time motivating and inspiring myself to get things done.
I also think a big part of being a leader is creating opportunities to let leadership emerge. If we never put ourselves in situations that allow us to be great leaders then those traits will never blossom and flourish.
I think we should all challenge ourselves to step out of traditional roles and lead more. If not leading others, then simply start by motivating and inspiring ourselves to tackle new and exciting ventures in life. It could be fun...:)
Thursday, July 11, 2013
Wednesday, July 3, 2013
How To Fill Your Glass - A celebrity's guide to the monogamous man
"There are no regrets in life, just lessons" ... Jennifer Aniston
If that's the case, I'd be the king of learning life lessons. I'd learn lessons left and right, upside down and inside out. My lesson book would be thick and I'd be the smartest lesson learner around. Come on, let's just admit that there are such things as regrets Jenn. I mean, you once dated Vince Vaughn, right?
I recently talked with a friend about the concept of serial monogamy. You know, the type of person who has no problem being fully committed to someone, but once the honeymoon stage is over, they're out like A-Rod at a optional drug screening. Personally, I love the idea of honeymooning. Who doesn't have fond memories of that "honeymoon" stage in a relationship? You remember, right? That time when the sex was plentiful and good, you were still exploring each other, you didn't take each other for granted and you didn't know every annoying nuance of your partner's personality. That being said, I can't really see doing it again and again.
Okay, maybe that's not entirely true. I could see honeymooning with certain women. I mean, what man doesn't see a dime here and there and start to fantasize about having the opportunity to be with additional women? But I guess that's why it's called fantasy. The reality is never as you imagined. I recently watched a show on polygamy and I have to say it doesn't look all that appealing. Instead of listening to one woman belly ache, this dude was bombarded by three broads. Just the thought of it gives me a headache. At least with one partner it's not that tough to duck out and escape for some "me" time. Can you imagine having three women wondering where you are and what you're up to? Three women calling your cell and sending you to the store to pick up groceries on a Saturday afternoon at Costco. Oh the nightmare!!! Just imagine how much longer I'd be stuck in line trying to make three women happy instead of one.
I guess monogamy has its place in our world. I'm still trying to figure out how it benefits mine, but I'm sure there's a reason most of us men succumb to it. I mean, it can't just be because some woman told us to, can it? And if that's it, then maybe it was all in the way they said it. I've come to realize a lot of life comes down to what you say. And sometimes it's not what you say, but how you say it. When it comes to the optimist versus pessimist scenario, women can be very optimistic about their futures. Is the glass half full or half empty. Mine has been empty for years, but some day I'm gonna figure out how to top that thing off.
Maybe Jenn Aniston can write a book and teach me that lesson. How to Fill Your Glass by Jennifer Aniston. That sounds easy enough, right? Some ghostwriter could write it, put her name on it and make her another million. Please tell me Jenn is good for more than just one cute haircut and far too many mediocre romantic comedies. I guess if I'm gonna rely on celebrity advice to run my world, I might as well go with Jenny from the block. At least J-Lo is sure to look good walking away after the honeymoon is over. Look out Casper. Miss Lopez might need another honeymoon soon.
If that's the case, I'd be the king of learning life lessons. I'd learn lessons left and right, upside down and inside out. My lesson book would be thick and I'd be the smartest lesson learner around. Come on, let's just admit that there are such things as regrets Jenn. I mean, you once dated Vince Vaughn, right?
I recently talked with a friend about the concept of serial monogamy. You know, the type of person who has no problem being fully committed to someone, but once the honeymoon stage is over, they're out like A-Rod at a optional drug screening. Personally, I love the idea of honeymooning. Who doesn't have fond memories of that "honeymoon" stage in a relationship? You remember, right? That time when the sex was plentiful and good, you were still exploring each other, you didn't take each other for granted and you didn't know every annoying nuance of your partner's personality. That being said, I can't really see doing it again and again.
Okay, maybe that's not entirely true. I could see honeymooning with certain women. I mean, what man doesn't see a dime here and there and start to fantasize about having the opportunity to be with additional women? But I guess that's why it's called fantasy. The reality is never as you imagined. I recently watched a show on polygamy and I have to say it doesn't look all that appealing. Instead of listening to one woman belly ache, this dude was bombarded by three broads. Just the thought of it gives me a headache. At least with one partner it's not that tough to duck out and escape for some "me" time. Can you imagine having three women wondering where you are and what you're up to? Three women calling your cell and sending you to the store to pick up groceries on a Saturday afternoon at Costco. Oh the nightmare!!! Just imagine how much longer I'd be stuck in line trying to make three women happy instead of one.
I guess monogamy has its place in our world. I'm still trying to figure out how it benefits mine, but I'm sure there's a reason most of us men succumb to it. I mean, it can't just be because some woman told us to, can it? And if that's it, then maybe it was all in the way they said it. I've come to realize a lot of life comes down to what you say. And sometimes it's not what you say, but how you say it. When it comes to the optimist versus pessimist scenario, women can be very optimistic about their futures. Is the glass half full or half empty. Mine has been empty for years, but some day I'm gonna figure out how to top that thing off.
Maybe Jenn Aniston can write a book and teach me that lesson. How to Fill Your Glass by Jennifer Aniston. That sounds easy enough, right? Some ghostwriter could write it, put her name on it and make her another million. Please tell me Jenn is good for more than just one cute haircut and far too many mediocre romantic comedies. I guess if I'm gonna rely on celebrity advice to run my world, I might as well go with Jenny from the block. At least J-Lo is sure to look good walking away after the honeymoon is over. Look out Casper. Miss Lopez might need another honeymoon soon.
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